Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Checking in

Typical pattern, typical me- I'm bored of my blog already. I think this happens two to three months whenever I start a new blog. I'm really pumped about it, and think it's genius and then I'm just like 'eh'. And maybe it's my impending nose cold that's kicking at me, but I can't think of anything clever or interesting to say regarding my relationship. He gets back into town late tonight so I'll go out and stay with him tomorrow till Sunday. We don't know what we're doing for New Years.

Oh I know a groundbreaking checkpoint I can discuss: First New Years Eve with a boyfriend!

My spin instructor and him for some reason don't think NYE is a big deal and they don't believe in resolutions. My spin instructor yelled today, 'Screw NYE resolutions, you are here today! Change today!' and in a less aggressive tone the BF agrees. He thinks you don't need one day of the year to change. My argument is the NYE and birthdays are a perfect check in time.

Because if you don't have someone or something reminding you to do the reflective check-list every once in awhile, are you really going to make the changes on your own?

You'll have to wait till your breaking point, and I just don't do that anymore. What's the point of waiting till you're miserable to make the change? Make a list now and look at it everyday, if it's still undone in three to six months, then rewrite it and make the goals smaller. That's what I do and it kinda, sorta works most of the time.

Like I made a 'to-do' list on Sunday night and today's spin class was on it. Sure, I had to wear my gym clothes under my PJs last night to ensure success but I still did it :)

Friday, December 11, 2009

Spoiled Schedules

I've been realizing more and more that I've been a tad spoiled in my relationship by being able to see him every day at work. Seeing him first thing in the morning before I even finished my first cup of coffee became a nice routine. Having mid afternoon cookies left at my desk each day became an expected surprise. Checking in with him on my way out of the office was procedure.

And of course now things have changed. My company has moved to a new building but my department's portion isn't done being constructed so we're in a temp facility. So since we are now 20 blocks away from each other during the week, I don't get cookies or morning kisses. I'm such a winey complainer, I know. There are more important things going on in the world. But seriously, those little yellow Starbucks cookies are amazing- like little tiny pieces of fluffy clouds.

So I guess the problem is now we have to work to see each other outside of work. And our schedules have been polar opposites lately, so it hasn't been exactly a consistent schedule. We still have the weekends in LI thank goodness. I love having a break from the city and just bumming around with him. I dunno..since this is my first real relationship I guess I don't know what the average normal, time spending schedule is...should I be happy with weekends and a dinner during the week? Or push for more us time?